My first time…

Today I want to talk to you about something I feel a little reserved to share but I think it might help a few of you out there, it’s about my first time… I’m sure those of you who have gone through it know what I’m talking about; not knowing what to do, feeling inexperienced and anxious, will you be able to perform well? What will others think? Will they laugh at me? Oh God! I’m too lazy, I’ll probably be out of breath after a minute!

A ripe age of 17 years young, ready to go HARD, ALL OR NOTHING, BEAST MODE! I wish. More like scrawny, skinny fat, anxiety level 9000, awkward teenager mode.

The gym [1] was based on the second floor of a community center run by YMCA charity [2]. It wasn’t like your usual hustle and bustle type commercial gyms you have today with hundreds of equipment[3] but a modest one with a handful of things at our disposal, we even had to make up the bench with stepper blocks! But it made do.

It was finally time, I’ve been contemplating on joining the gym for a little while now. I’ve had passed by a few times watching as a spectator from a far but never the courage to go in and inquire, always saying to myself, tomorrow or at least that’s the excuse we all use don’t we? To be honest I was a little anxious[4], back then I was very shy, I still believe I am but it’s not something you would notice much now, its something I’ve worked on a lot over the years. But it was now done, I worked up the courage to go and book my induction for 5.30pm Thursday evening, there was no going back, the deal was done [5].

Thursday rolled over fast and it was time for me to make my way to the gym. Mind you I wasn’t a complete novice, I had embraced the inaugural rituals of every young teenage boy into the fitness world; bicep curling my 5kg York dumbbell sets and my feeble attempt at push ups. I was still anxious, you know that twisting and turning feeling you get in your belly. “Screw It!” I hyped to myself. I’m gonna do this! Why is that we think the worst case scenarios in our head when we walk into an unfamiliar territory, it’s not the case that something bad would occur but I find myself doing so often.

I walked up the staircase, signed my name in the register, smiled at the receptionist and carried on walking up to the second floor. Still nervous, sweating a little, I opened the door and there was a very cute instructor waiting for me on the other side greeting me with a smile from cheek to cheek. She then proceeded to take me through one machine at a time; the mechanics of it, the purpose and then allowing me to give it a go. Suffice to say it was not the most flattering image to see nor was I the most competent trainee performing those exercises.

One particular moment comes to mind, when attempting graciously to perform the dumbbell bench press on the makeshift bench, pressing a whole impressive 2.5kg on each hand from the bottom of my chest to a fully extended position; it felt as though gravity decided on that day would fight against me as I was struggling to push this megere amount of weight. My chest decided to shake involuntarily, my arms spasming out, almost wacking the cute instructor. Luckily she had good quick reflexes.

Soon after the session had finished, a sense of relief came over that it was over. Apart from the isolated embarrassing moment I had a smile on my face, it didn’t feel so bad now. I actually enjoyed it as I accomplished something I set out to do. It wasn’t terrifying as I thought it’d be, it was okay.

Two day’s later, I decided to go again, this time the very cute instructor wasn’t there but another instructor was. He was nice enough but left me to my own devices. There were a few guys there, I didn’t know them but overtime there were to be a great camaraderie to be built with them. As weeks and months went on I started going more and more, slowly becoming more competent and more importantly, confident. No longer were my arms spasming whilst benching but I was able to increase the load week by week and even do more advance exercises. Each new benchmark I reached I gained more confidence to try something a little bit more ambitious.

Fear rises from the unknown. You don’t have to be confident to start doing something, just dare too. People go on about “its all about being confident” but something they don’t teach you is that confidence is situational and it only arises after repetition and consistent performance. So get out there and just do it!

Until the next one, stay strong and conquer my fellow ALL STRENGTH athletes!

[1] What were you thinking? Come on, ya dirty minded burgers haha! Tut Tut.

[2] Yes, first thing may pop up is the old famous 80’s hit single but it’s much more than that although that is a pretty catchy song!

[3] Majority of which are cardio machine of which majority are used in January and then forgotten about by late February.

[4] “Little” would be an understatement.

[5] Dramatic much?! I think not!

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One step, two step, three.

Today, I want to talk to you about something I believe every human being on the face of this planet from beginning of times to the present day and beyond to the near distant terminator future [1] is/will face. It’s the will to continue after the initial motivation dies. And it will die in that there is no doubt.

When we start something new, we are consumed by excitement, we feel a fire burning inside and it’s so easy to keep going while that fire burns. However, when it burns out and it will, how do you keep going? It’s simple yet so hard. So what is it? It is taking one step at a time.

A lot of us look for quick fixes, it’s why you have so many charlatans out there feeding you the latest herbal tea, tummy tea, juice fixture/mixture diets and God knows what else is out there. No one wants to put the work in and let’s be honest, who does? I can sit here and lie to you and say, oh I love the grind, I love waking up early every morning, going to the gym everyday even when I’m feeling down and tired after a long day’s work to only go and put my body through the pain and intensity required to improve it. I don’t. But I still do it, I obviously have my own incentives but I’ll leave that for another time. I’ll tell you what I do and what I usually advice my clients to do; keep it simple.

Simplicity is the key to success [2]. Do not try to over complicate an already complicated life. I write down my goals and then I force myself not to look to far ahead. I believe you should have a vision and goal setting in place so you have things to look towards, processes to work through that gives you direction but at the end of the day it starts with many first steps of the day.

Repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action & the architecture of accomplishment.

I can’t remember exactly where I heard the above quote, but it has stuck with me for many years and has been the basis of everything I’ve worked on. This is probably one of the most important things almost everyone forgets about, doesn’t know or does not give too much importance too. Any skill you acquire, you will soon learn there are some things which you have to master in order to become competent in that skill acquisition and to do so it requires ferocious repetition.

You can be born with a slight advantage, whether it’s higher IQ, strength, speed etc., however, one of the principles of training is detraining; you lose what you don’t train. And this goes for anything in life; we are creatures of comfort so when that initial motivation starts to wear off what you initially started will begin to seem like an insurmountable mountain top hard to reach. Stop looking at top! Look at the road in front, keep your ego in check (NOT restrained) and keep going; one step, two step and then three.

Until the next one, stay strong and conquer my fellow ALL STRENGTH athletes!

[1] Come on y’ALL thinking it too!

[2] Clients love hearing me using cliche axioms.

FED UP WITH ATTEMPTING THE SAME OLD ROUTINES TO NOWHERE, FRUSTRATING DIETS THAT LEAD YOU TO FEELING HUNGRY OR WORSE BINGING? WANT A CLEAR, NO NONSENSE ACTIONABLE GUIDANCE THAT YOU CAN FOLLOW WHILST LEADING A BUSY LIFE AND SUCCESSFULLY ACHIEVE YOUR AESTHETIC GOALS? GO TO THE CONTACT US PAGE OF THE WEBSITE AND SEND ME A MESSAGE AND LET’S SEE IF WE CAN GET YOU IN THE BEST SHAPE OF YOUR LIFE.